While jogging, I came upon this problem that many of the students face:


While I was pushing/pulling some Northlanders to jog, one of them said: "but there are still so many behind!"



Here's the problem: why do you care about people who are behind you? Why don't you look ahead instead, and look at those in front of you?



If you want to be the best, you must fight with the best. What is the point of looking at those who are not as good as you?



If I put you through PSLE again and you score 300, will you be proud of it? (can you even manage to score 300?)

If I sign you up for the "intelligent baby search" and you won it because you know what is an "apple" and the babies do not, will you be happy?


Why don't you look at the O lvl students, looking at them get 13 and 14 for their L1R5 and point at them saying that "I can do much better" instead of looking at the number who failed and say "O, at least if I fail, I'm not the only one!".


If you think like the latter, you're guranteed to fail in life.


Mindsets are things that you have the power to change. Circumstances won't, but as long as you have the right attitude, you can change how you view the circumstance and hence be a happier person.



Let's say someone gossips about you (which I must say, is inevitable in this school), you can choose to





1- make a big fuss and gossip back about her and start a blog war and tio her and eventually get into trouble yourself.








or 2- tell yourself that she's not worth the time or that she's simply jealous (which is usually the case) and let the inccident off.







or 3- approach her nicely, resolve the issue and eventually become good friends with her.



Most people will choose 1 (of course, if I ask you, you won't but in real life, you'll be unable to control yourself) and that is not a wise choice. Ask yourself: what do you gain from hurting her? You feel happy for a while (that's her retribution or spreading nasty things about me), people know you, but for the wrong reasons (eh, that girl, scary sia, anyhow will whack people, lets avoid her). Eventually, you yourself get into trouble for letting pride comsume you.


If you chose 2, you're logical, but yet full of yourself. It is what the 'smart ah-lian haters' of this generation will do. But they themselves are the new 'ah-lians'. You secretly hurt from her comments but you choose to mask it, and show only your 'brave' side. But what for? what do you gain? Pride again?


3 is the 'model' answer but most people execute it wrong. They will 'confront' the girl like an ah lian and 'resolve' the matter by screaming and shouting and eventually creating more hatred.
The 'model' way is to approach her in the dark, when no one is around, such that she cannot escape. She'll be afriad, becasue she is guilty of badmouthing you. Look stern and threatening, but start with an apology. Apologize for what you think you've done wrong, and talk to her nicely. If it goes well, not only will you lose an enemy, you'll win a friend. All that's required of you is to put down your pride for the first second to apologise. Take the first move, and all things will be in place naturally.



These 3 reactions will generate 3 different outcomes. Moreover, it's all in your hands! You can control your life.


A student from 4EC told me that 'one person cannot change anything'. Look at Lee Kuan Yew, look at Micheal Jackson, look at the person who hurt you the most....


1 person can matter a lot.